We've travelled with AJ many, many times in his short little life so far, and fortunately we've been getting smarter and smarter about it. Here's what we learned this time (along with a few cellphone shots of the boy on our travels):
Meals: Figuring out meals as you go is not a great plan. We did this on the way to Albany, and it was a pain. And messy. So for the way back, I stopped at Target and bought three different
Ella's Kitchen baby food pouches. AJ eats table food exclusively now, but for mess-free airplane meals these veggie-and-fruit-only pouches are amazing. These will be a go-to for future trips! Also, nursing-friendly tops are
very helpful for discreet nursing while seated 2.5 inches from a complete (often male) stranger. I just layered a cotton t-shirt over a stretchy camisole; camisole covers the belly, bottom of the t-shirt covers baby's mouth. Pair those with quick mama reflexes (for when distractible toddler suddenly decides he is all done for the eleventh time in two minutes), and our flights were wardrobe-malfunction free.
Crazy boy sitting so well for a picture on the way to NY.
Luggage: On the way to Albany, we mailed two large flat-rate USPS boxes full of clothes to my parents' house and carried two bags (a diaper bag and a shoulder bag) on the plane. It was nice to not carry everything, but the shipping cost $30 and the two bags I did carry were still kind of heavy and really uncomfortable. On the way back to Honolulu, I packed all of our things into a carry-on suitcase that my mom wanted to donate and carried the necessities in the
backpack my wonderful husband ordered me for the Ergo baby carrier. It's a great size, and can be worn as a regular backpack or attached to the front of the Ergo depending on your needs. This made our return trip
much more comfortable and enjoyable! (It was somewhat less enjoyable to learn that the airline had left our luggage in Phoenix, but thankfully we got it back the next day. Next time, I'll just carryon one suitcase to avoid the headache.)
Sleepy boy did so very well on the flights back to Honolulu!
Diaper changes: We used
cloth diapers throughout our trip, even during 12+ hours of flying through three different airports. And you know what? I'd do it again next time. Honestly, the only downside I can think of is that they take up a bit more space, but I'm okay with that. (Okay, and when he pooped on the long flight back to Honolulu and I had to change him in the tiny airplane lavatory that was not equipped with a changing table, that may have counted toward the downside. Picture a distraught mother looking in every nook and cranny of said 2'x2' lavatory for a changing table, feeling like a moron for not being able to find it - we later learned this older plane had none, which helped my ego a bit - and then changing the 2-1/2' tall boy while he stood on the floor next to me and knocked my glasses off my face. Better yet, don't picture it. It was kind of awful.) So, what did all of this teach me? 1. Cloth diapers are fine, even for transoceanic trips. 2. When changing a toddler on your lap, they are much happier with the situation if their head is near your head, not hanging off your lap near your feet. 3. When changing a stinky toddler in an airplane bathroom, take his shorts off first (as in while you're at your seat), don't waste time looking for the darn changing table if it's not glaringly obvious where it is, and make it quick. It's not like he's enjoying it either.

Watching us takeoff from O'Hare.
Layovers: In trying to keep the boy happiest on the planes where he was much more confined, I tried to tire him out as much as possible at the airports during our layovers. On the way back to Hawai'i, this meant letting him run around the terminal while I followed closely behind. I got a ton of side-eyes for being
that mom, but I figured that if he were to scream on the plane next to any of the side-eyers, they would have wished that he had rid himself of some of his restlessness prior to boarding. So, run around the airport, as politely and quietly as possible, it was. "We go behind people, not in front of them," and "We already ate, we don't need to go into that restaurant" were a couple of phrases that I had to use once or twice (or maybe a thousand) times. Unfortunately, so was "AJ, please be GENTLE!" when he found three little boys to play with near our gate. Sometimes he's such a great playmate. This time, he squeezed the littlest boy's arm like crazy; I'm not even sure why, and I felt so horrible, even though the little guy didn't seem to care all that much. Let's hope there's no repeat of that, little boy!
Checking out the baseball exhibit in Phoenix's Sky Harbor Int'l.
All in all, traveling with the boy was wonderful. He was so good on the plane; he was the biggest flirt I've ever seen with every lady we encountered. We sat next to parents of many (six, then nine) on our last two flights back home, which made those legs of the journey much more enjoyable. (Much more so than when we sat next to the twenty-something young man who attempted to play solitaire a few inches from AJ on one of our flights. 52 card pick-up, anyone? Yikes.) As long as I kept our luggage to a minimum, stayed positive, and tried to go with the flow as much as possible, things went well. When I let myself get frustrated and overwhelmed, or got caught up in how very tired I was after traveling alone with a toddler for 12+ hours, things got a little crazy. Sometimes - most of the time - it's all in the attitude. While I'm not planning on making such a huge trip without James again, I'm not at all anxious about our next trip like I was about this one. With a little prep work and a lot of smiles, traveling with baby in tow can be a good time!

Our beautiful view of O'ahu: Almost home!